Be Genuine

How many times have we given a compliment and the receiver of the compliment is like “No, I am not like that…” or “No, I am not sure what you are talking about?”

Or how many times have we admired something or some particular traits of someone and we missed the moment of complimenting them? Often times complimenting can see insincere or semi-insincere.

So how we compliment genuinely and receive compliments gratefully?

Three ways to give a great and sincere compliment involves you to know who you are and what you like. What really strikes your interest? What do you find fascinating? What do you enjoy?

Understanding who you are will make compliments, when you give them, more sincere and honest. So, the #1 thing to do when giving a sincere compliment is actually mean it. What is it that you find in someone else amazing? If you see something you like, tell them. The key is to be authentic and express how you really feel. #2, Understand by giving a genuine compliment you will make someone’s day. You don not know what the person is going through and if you feel drawn to compliment that person, do it. That compliment may do wonders to that person’s day and make them feel appreciated and valued. #3, Complimenting can reinforce a relationship. As mentioned earlier, when compliments are given correctly and genuinely, they can lead to a person feeling valued. When you “thank” or compliment your partner, parent, children, or friends, you are not only making them feel valued, you are also making your bond with that person stronger. This last tip can also work in the workplace. Your employees will be more productive if you genuinely compliment his or her work.

So go ahead! Start complimenting coworkers, family, and strangers! Practice makes perfect.

However, you are not feeling it not fake it.

When you are you receiving a compliment, please accept it. Someone is taking the time to give you an authentic and genuine compliment. When you negate that compliment it is kind of like a slap in the face. Why would that person give you another compliment? Why would that person give another person a compliment? Basically, your thanking them for their compliment is giving them a compliment. Whew, did you understand that? Haha! Compliments go both ways. Even if you may not see what the person giving you a compliment is complimenting you about, it does not mean it is not true. They may see something you do not and that is OK. You may see what they see a month from now or a year or even 5 years!

Who will you compliment today?